Humor ke Side Effects

Oh i can really be rotten at times...i know that...so Negative Humor...a very relevant topic especially from my perspective...because i have been practicing it for long time [undeliberately of course] and many a times have hurt some very dear one's...i actually feel pathetic seeing them hurt...and sometimes with tears ....and at that time all i can say is ...WHAT I HAVE DONE ....because i had cracked that joke...just to had a good laugh..or may be to show off how funny i really can be...and i have paid heavy prices for this (remember my last to last blog which was actually an apology)...my friends get annoyed...some even stop talking to me...and then i have to go through that apology session...where i have to curse myself [no matter how hard it may be...]...remind them of some golden moments..which sounds typically filmy...but it always work...maybe people like it that way.....

I hate that MANAYOO THE FRIEND SESSION ...[i had told you i can be rotten] where everyone's eyebrows are raised at me reminding me about my poor joke..even if they might have laughed over it just 5 mins ago...but will change their side when the recipient doesn't take it in good spirit..In that little Drama there are some even more dangerous kinds those Trying to be EXTRA SMART PEOPLE who have unfortunately witnessed the scene and now they will start giving their unnecessary lectures which i have to listen...[when i am actually feeling like strangulating that person...but common one cant offend the whole damm world]...showing me how inconsiderate i was...making things more worse... and giving my friend a chance to sulk a little more..

Well i had read this somewhere...

"When someone blushes with embarrassment, when someone carries away an ache, when something sacred is made to appear common, when someone's weakness provides the laughter,when profanity is required to make it funny, when a child is brought to tears or when everyone can't join in the laughter, it's a poor joke."
- Cliff Thomas

Okey what ever he is saying is correct but i don't support him completely because life can be really boring without humor...i personally feel jokes are matter of chance sometimes they click...sometimes they dont....so crack them at you own risk..which i take...oh i can be an entrepreneur...[now that was a PJ...but then i have done my master's in that]

Negative Humor

Negative humor may include sarcasm, put-downs and hurtful remarks. Any humor involving sarcasm that make fun of others is in poor taste. Any injury is forgiven more easily that an insult.


"When someone blushes with embarrassment, when someone carries away an ache, when something sacred is made to appear common, when someone's weakness provides the laughter, when profanity is required to make it funny, when a child is brought to tears or when everyone can't join in the laughter, it's a poor joke."
- Cliff Thomas


To a sadist everything is funny, so long as it is happening to someone else. it is not an uncommon sight to see boys throwing stones at frogs just to have fun.The boy's fun means death to the frogs. It is not fun for the frogs.

Humor can be valuable or dangerous, dependable on whether you are laughing with someone or at someone.When humor involves making fun of or ridiculing others, it is not in good taste not is it innocent.Hurting other's feeling can be cruel.Some people get their fun by putting others down. Sarcasm alienated people. It is a good idea to avoid sarcastic humor and keep it 'low-risk'.

country roads take me home .....

its been 15 years now..since i am living in delhi....more than 3/4th of my life..delhi a great city..has given me alot..it has contributed in my overall development both mentally and spiritually...and i am truly indebted to this city...
i had my education here only...[still going on...sob-sob<<<] my friends[whom i truly love...]...i love delhi like nothing else...i feel so much at home here...so secured and free..i love its places ..i love metro ....i love india gate ...delhi's road ...malls....and my favorite is delhi's ridge..i am so much a delhiite...and i am proud of that...
i am originally from bihar...where i was born...where my roots are...but leading a super fast life of metro city i often forget this....believing myself a city bird...and this hectic schedule...[oh there is nothing like hectic actually...but i love using such words...giving a air of importance you know]...leaves me with no time to visit there...its been nearly 2 years since i had been there last...
i still have a vivid memory of my childhood...i have spend my first 4 years in maheshpur[a small village...with my maternal granny...]..
and i remember what a brat i was ....[and you can still see its reflection in mee]...i was the most notorious among all ...unfearful..spoilt ...but then i was just mee with no inhibitions or any mask of sophistication....
whenever i go there [even for a week] it seems as if i am HOME again..but during the initial hours people come to meet us with curious eyes [as if we are some aliens from another planet...by-the-way i enjoy that celebrity kinds attention] ...but soon they realize that we are so much like them..and they even tell us that you people are still the same.i wont say that i am the same what i was but then i become the same what i was in that ambiance [that comes so naturally ]..it is so great to meet all my childhood friends with whom i used to play games...most of them are married today..soon i become a part of them and Delhi sounds an alien place even to me because heart of heart i still belong to them ...even today while leaving i always have tears in my eyes...and an unexplainable fear in my mind....maybe a fear of being lost in this madly crowded city again....
My dressing and speaking style may reflect my urbanness...but heart of heart i am still that village girl...because i can relate myself better to them and then i realize i am not a delhiite....

That 1/4th is still dominent over this 3/4th

i am sorry !!!

Life is all about ups and downs...but lately there has been more downs than ups
Past few days have been really a little low but indeed a great learning experience too..[with my sister continuously reading out the different extracts from Shiv Kheda's -You can win..[but then i have already devoted my last blog to that....]

Well this blog is a little different...an apology for my dear friend...
i am not a perfect person ..there are many things i wish a did not do....yes my dearest ritika "to err is human.."..and i am just a simple human being..[i dont want any contradiction over that...]..i have made many mistakes in fact blunders...and my past record shall confirm you that i have repeated them without fault.
You know i am a person who tends to act a little over smart attimes...speaking something which may sound a little cool..[without realizing that it may hurt someone...really dear...]...and whatever i spoke at that time was just pure fun without any ill feelings for you of course...and i had not really understood how hurt you were until i saw those tears in your eyes....and that really made me feel so worse.....that i dint had even had the courage to call you...and the discuss the matter with you....
"i am sorry" is the line with which i start any conversation these days but unlike Enrique i am not tired of being sorry...

i hope that you will accept my sincere apology and forgive me...
you are a very dear friend ...have spend some great moments of my life with you...[have shared some great laughter ...have cursed all the teachers together...have bunked classes...all gossips...everything...]i will really cherish all those moments spent with you for my entire life.... and still hope to have great time together in future also...so don't let this episode put a full stop to our friendship...and i promise you not to hurt you in any way in future
love

WINNERS VERSUS LOSERS

The Winner is always part of the answer ;
The Looser as always part of the problem.

The Winner always has a program;
The Loser always has an excuse.

The Winner says,"Let me do it for you".,
The Loser says,"that is not my job."

The Winner sees an answer for every problem;
The Loser sees a problem for every answer.

The Winner says, ''It may be difficult but it is possible.'' ;
The Loser says ,'' It may be possible but it is too difficult.''

When a Winner makes a mistakes, he says,'' I was wrong.'' ;
When a Loser makes a mistakes, he says, '' It wasn't my fault.''

A Winner makes commitments;
A Loser makes promises.

Winner have dreams;
Losers have schemes.

Winner say,''I must do something.'' ;
Loser say,'' Something must be done.''

Winners are a part of the team;
Losers are apart from the team.

Winners see the gain;
Losers see problems.

Winners see possibilities;
Loser see the problems.

Winners believe in win/win ;
Losers believe for them to win someone has to lose.

Winners see the potential ;
Losers see the past.

Winners are like a thermostat ;
Loser are like thermometers.

Winners choose what they say;
Losers say what they choose.

Winners is hard arguments but soft words ;
Loser use soft arguments but hard words.

Winners stand firm on values but compromises on petty things ;
Loser stand firm on petty things but compromise on values.

Winners follow the philosophy of empathy : "Don't do to others what you would no0t want them to do to you" ;
Losers follow the philosophy , " Do it to others before they do it to you."

Winners make it happen ;
Losers let it happen.

Winners plan and prepare to win. The key word is PREPARATION.

rock on..off..on...!!

This tuesday i finally watched the much talked moviee "rock on..."[i am not really a moviee freak...but then everyone in my college was talking bout it...and besides the ticket was quit reasonable]....so how was it...excellent ??....ah..no...very good ??...not really....

okey...it was just a fine movie...i mean i had gone to watch it with loads of expectation..[after all..Khalid mohammad had given it 3.5 rating] but i was a little disappointed ...i will say that it was basically a bhel-purdee...of Dil chahta hai and Jhankaar beats..i know u all will agree wid mee...common...that kD [killer drummer]and that chikna..firanagii....that guy on the key board...cant recall his name...[nyways he died..dont know why...]..chit-chat easily reminds siddh and sameer [of dil chata hai...]...remembering their comparatively younger selfs where they were together and happy...blah blah..blah...[but it cant compare my all time fav. dil chahta hai]...and that arjun rampal's entry in last scene on the stage was typically so Jhankaar beats [anyways..i had not liked that...in jhankaar also]...i feel that the chemistry among the characters was really thandha ...[please dont confuse it to coca-cola]...moviee had no humour in it..okey so it was a serious cinema...but then what was the need of that.....???there was so much scope....and if you will say that whatever that guy..Purab kohli did was funny...then i am not buying it...he did the same ...as in any other film[cant recall any...]..oh but that zahreele zahreele...kaale neele peele...was a good try

But that doesnt mean it dint like it...i hav said..it was a fine moviee..so..then wat was fine...well well..Farhaan Akhtar was fine...infact very fine...i just loved him..he was...what we say...amazing...yaa...he was really a rock star...i loved his act..his voice ..and his house...[okey it was an art galarrey..but i really liked it]...that boy is really a multi talented guy..fits so many caps..
Arjun was a little depressed boy[but then he was supposed to play one]...anyways his hair was cute
both the girls were sweet..both had a good role..and they justified it..have long ways to go..
but then i will say moviee had nothing new to offer.....except farhaan akhtar...

"Papa kahte hain bada naam karega...."

Parents do have alot of expectations from the kids...i cant say this is wrong because they are the one who love us unconditionally[well are u sure ???..then why i hv to clean my cubbord..i have do it that too this weekend only..and i know my lovely sis wont help me a bit as if she is not even sharing the room with me..well i dont have any intention to give any space to preity out here...]so i should continue my topic..they take such a good care of ours..fulfill all our demands[4 months of nag finally paid me well] ...one drop of tears from our eyes just melt them[as if they will allow me to go to disc with my frnds...oh a little risky subject..lets not enter into that]..so so so...whatever i say..but i know one thing...that 'PARENTS JUST LIVE FOR US"... in return they just expect that we will follow all their instructions[oh..not a big deal..ahmm ahmm]..will show them report cards with lovely marks..uhhu uhhu.and choose the career of their choice..[or atleast a conventional one...ahha ahha...well i am having a lil cough..nothing serious...what you thought...???]...

This article is not for any nerds...whose mark sheets become headache for us...this article is for those,whose "Procrastination" is a striking personality feature... this is for all those dear and very dear friends who have alot of important things to do other then just worrying about the upcoming exams and still have to cover 60% of sylabus at 11pm,the night just before the exam..for those whose fav. author is not K.N. Bhatia,Manjeet Singh, S.Chand...for those to whom the thickness of Pradeep's and Dinesh's is enough to give migraine attack[sorry i am writing the names of all the science stream books...because i had commerce and i never bothered to buy any reference book for that...so cant name any]...for those who really hate parents teacher meeting...well the list is endless[but i dont want anyone to sympathize with us]...we guys are happy...in fact very happy the way we are..we respect the 90+ holders...but believe me we dont crave to be one...we are content with our marks[now i wont reveal that...whatever it is]...but dearest parents maybe wont understand...

A CREED FOR THOSE WHO HAVE SUFFERED

I asked God for strength, that I might achieve.
I was made weak, that I might learn humbly to obey ...

I asked for health, that I might do greater things.
I was given infirmity, that i might do better things ...

I asked for riches, that I might be happy.
I was given poverty, that I might be wise ....

I asked for power, that I might have the praise of men.
I was given weakness, that I might feel the need of God ...

I asked for all things, that I might enjoy life.
I was given life, that I might enjoy all things...

I got nothing I asked for __ but everything I had hoped for.

Almost despite myself, my unspoken prayers were answered.
I, among all men, am most richly blessed!




-Anonymous

LETS FORGET RATIONALITY FOR SOMETIME.....

The most precious gift that you can give somebody in todays world is your patient ears...i had read this line somewhere...[i dont remember....anyways i dont think it really matters...]...but i had not really understood its meaning in true sense until recently...and now i have become " FAN " of the guy who has said this..after experiencing something like this in my own life..well thats why it is said that the wearer best knows where the shoes pinches.. indeed another a very wise man..[oh i guess world is full of wise man......its just me who was ignorant to this fact...]...Never mind JAB JAAGO TABHI SAVERA...very rightly said...[god i guess i was seriously ignorant].....i think its time to switch to my real purpose and share my experience ..and not making the list of the prudent people...where i do not qualify....

well today we all have myriad problems...at both personal and professional level and i presume that all of us are trying our level best to cope with them and solve them in our own respective ways...the least we expect from our fellow beings is to be a little patient with us and just listen to our problems...mind you just listen to our problems and offer no advices please....
Yes there are times when you are extremely frustrated over something or somebody....when you just dont understand the ration or logistic approach ....[or maybe you do not want to...] ....and at that time what can be a better shelter than shoulder of your friend and his/her attentive ears at your service,,,[well thats why friendship is such a bliss...] and at that time when your friend starts counting you your mistakes and gives you rational advices...{in which you are least interested } instead of supporting you ...well i tell you how you will feel....
You will actually forget the actual reason of your frustration...[or atleast that problem will start looking TRIVIAL to you at that time...] and that friend will become your worst enemy.

Advice for that friend : if you think that this friend of yours is making a mountain of moll hill....and his/her problem is very TRIVIAL [ in your words ].....then its okey that you dont support him/her...atleast just let her/him speak her heart w/o giving her any advices..[no matter how tempting it may look to tell her the rational path....or show off your intelligence..]...believe me she is not interested

This has been an eye opener for me too but then i have to learn alot...

just give it a try...

I am not much concerned about the things which are going around me...in my college... my society...or on macro level also
i am enough occupied with the problems of my life which keeps me enough busy to think about what is going around in the world...i am not following the Beijing Olympics religiously {by the way congratulation to all the winners ofcours}..musharraf resigning from his post is not tempting me to enter in any group discussions....neither i am depressing myself with the situation in jammu and the revolt from the secessionist group in Kashmir..i am not worrying myself to death for the 11% inflation{forgive me if i am wrong with figure]...but then what is keeping mee so busy.....i am busy{sounds great}....but yaa i am busy....i am busy with my studies for my upcoming exams...i am busy thinking how to reduce the extra pounds i have gained during my holidays ...[i doubt thinking will do mee any help in this case}...i am busy helping mom in her daily course of work..{as if i have choice}....i am busy scanning the market for something new to add to my wardrobe..[oh..i am loving it].....

I am the future of the world "the gen-next"...still how ironical it is that i am totally unperturbed by the things going around me...
well my argument is i am doing everything which is directly related with me and with my future...i am enjoying my life to the fullest and also in someway preparing my-self to face the challenges ahead ...without bothering myself much...about the things which do not interest me too much...and things about which i cant do much...
The world is defiantly not in its best of health today....with problems almost everywhere...and in almost everything...maybe the root cause of these problems is that people are not doing what they are supposed to do and are just interfering in others matter of affairs..well this is my point of view...as per my understanding and experience...if just for sometime people stop peeping in others affairs and limit themselves to theirs only..maybe some of the problems might get solved automatically.
I am no one whom you are bound to follow...but then one can always give it a try.....