The most precious gift that you can give somebody in todays world is your patient ears...i had read this line somewhere...[i dont remember....anyways i dont think it really matters...]...but i had not really understood its meaning in true sense until recently...and now i have become " FAN " of the guy who has said this..after experiencing something like this in my own life..well thats why it is said that the wearer best knows where the shoes pinches.. indeed another a very wise man..[oh i guess world is full of wise man......its just me who was ignorant to this fact...]...Never mind JAB JAAGO TABHI SAVERA...very rightly said...[god i guess i was seriously ignorant].....i think its time to switch to my real purpose and share my experience ..and not making the list of the prudent people...where i do not qualify....
well today we all have myriad problems...at both personal and professional level and i presume that all of us are trying our level best to cope with them and solve them in our own respective ways...the least we expect from our fellow beings is to be a little patient with us and just listen to our problems...mind you just listen to our problems and offer no advices please....
Yes there are times when you are extremely frustrated over something or somebody....when you just dont understand the ration or logistic approach ....[or maybe you do not want to...] ....and at that time what can be a better shelter than shoulder of your friend and his/her attentive ears at your service,,,[well thats why friendship is such a bliss...] and at that time when your friend starts counting you your mistakes and gives you rational advices...{in which you are least interested } instead of supporting you ...well i tell you how you will feel....
You will actually forget the actual reason of your frustration...[or atleast that problem will start looking TRIVIAL to you at that time...] and that friend will become your worst enemy.
Advice for that friend : if you think that this friend of yours is making a mountain of moll hill....and his/her problem is very TRIVIAL [ in your words ].....then its okey that you dont support him/her...atleast just let her/him speak her heart w/o giving her any advices..[no matter how tempting it may look to tell her the rational path....or show off your intelligence..]...believe me she is not interested
This has been an eye opener for me too but then i have to learn alot...
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KARNA out of his attachment for duryodhana always lended his ear to him nomatter what he said...right,wrong,rational,irrational,good,bad...because he was a great friend...but then if he could have seriously attempted to make him realize that...what he was doing was wrong...he would have been classified as a great and a wise friend...he stood favouring him till the very end of his life...but then he could never take his friend to those heights of glory where history would have classified him as a great warrior n a winner in the most important battle of his life....i hope u got the meaning...anyways i died laughing after reading this specially the last part....
heyyy
impressive job...
well 4 d 1st tym im writin ny comment.
not becoz its you [;)]
bt becoz of d topic u selected dis tym...really very close to my heart
well sweta...
i agree to a certain limit
actually i face dis problem a million tyms(lets leave dat 4 preity, she vl tell u better)
i believe a true frnd is one who z there with you at every point of tym & shd know where & when to speak..
its very correctly said dat if karna had attempted to make duryodhana realise wat he was doin was wrong,then he could have classified as great & wise frnd.
i too truely belive in dat
according to me,
givin true & rational advice is important but the most important point z "how & when".....
when ur upset and angry ,u dont wana listen anything rational or logical,and at dat tym,if a frnd instead of makin him realise where is he wrong? or wat he should change in himself so to not repeat d same situation?,i think should just listen to problem to make him feel better.
and ofcourse ,u can talk to your frnd whenever hez feelin better.
In dat way he vl b able to understand ur point not just in a better way bt also vl appreciate ur effort and frndship.
earlier i had dis belief dat ppl shd accept dere frndz and loved one as they are
they should love them for wat they are and should not try to change them bt then my frndz showed me the other option...
to tell them wat they are lackin & help them to improve and become a better human being.
nw i follow d later 1,u know y..
i too think true frndz are those who make u realise wats wrong in you so that u change before sufferin a great loss.
i think im blessed in this area of my life...
great work
keep it up
& get goin...
u know ur blog forced me to comment upon......
because after reading this i kind of self examined myself and very well know that wat i lack is patient ears and i really always have too much feeling that my frd shud neva follow a wrong path but i neva look whether the situation is right or not... but at times, i feel i shud really have to learn it..u know i m feeling that this one was for me..:)
anyways u can be a good journalist.....
take care
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