happy new year....

Hello friends…so finally 2009 is about to over…in which we all had our share of “feeling-great and feeling-not-so-great” moments along with some real big OMG’s …. it is always prudent to cherish the beautiful moments and forget the painful one’s because dwelling on one’s past tragedies has done no good to anyone…
I won’t preach…or tell you to Face the challenges of your life with all fervor and zest…because at times it is fun to be Diffident also... and let your friends fix the thing for you (but just don’t make this your habit) …its not very good to keep on lamenting over the matter… let the bygones be bygones …always remember that:

“The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems,
but those who learn to live with things that are less
than perfect”...

Now that new year is just round the corner…so it is the time to do some brainstorming (ohk I know it is a inappropriate word here…so then may be I am into “whatever-word-I-want-to-use-syndrome”) to decide over the new year resolution ….

Friends I got a mail…really liked it…and that’s why wanted to share it with all of you…these are list of things that one can implement in one’s life..READ IT (even if you have read it before) because it is worth getting the second thought..…or who knows it may help you in deciding your Resolution for 2010…here it goes :

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO..... Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR. When you say, 'I love you,' mean it.

FIVE. When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye.

SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN. **Believe in love at first sight.**

EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN.** **Don't judge people by their relatives.**

TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN! .. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?'

FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN. Say 'bless you' when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice ****
TWENTY- ONE. Spend some time alone.

P.S. – Happy New Year

Now wats the problem in 10 to 6….

Hey guys I watch wake up siddh…liked the flick and loved THE RANBIR KAPOOR….i think it was a cool movie …had great time...was pure funnnn….actually it was pleasure watching that dude… looking amazingly innocent yet so so…well so sexy…hehe… last time I had felt that way…(well the butterfly thing in my stomach…was while watching jab we met …that green moflar around shahid’s neck…oh mah ma…)…

Now that I liked the movie so I won’t question how a boy of that age…and true brat like siddh…can be so sweet….with a clear heart…no smoking …no drugs … just the occasional drinks….and always the platonic thoughts running his mind…(well a little tough to digest that…but in this case special redemptions for ranbir….)…just one query…when konkana sen sharma will stop playng the identically same roles…???? I mean she is awesome at that…but then…page 3 , life In a metro.. luck by chance…a little bit of laga chunri mein daag(well that movie still haunts me in my dreams…)…nd now wake up siddh…same girl… with same inspirations...and aspirations…infact the same make-up and hair-style too…now that can be a little monotonous but then I m not really complaining……

So without playing too much Khalid Mahammad….i will come straight to the point…

My issue is with the projection of life…or life style…and the attitude…in the movies….i mean why each and every youth oriented movie is trying to tell us that 10-6 job is boring…and it is something for uncle ji types boy and behan ji(no…not mayawati…) types girls…
Somewhere these film are forcing us to believe that a guy working in a bank or probably an insurance company do not have a sense of humor…or a girl teaching in any X Y or Z school…does not know how to enjoy the life ….or for that matter if you are not very good at singing…dancing….painting or the lattest photography then you are good for nothing…and it’s a pitty if you yourself is no Eshan Awasthi or Antra ……

BHAI SAHAB Too much of tare zameen pe nahi chalegi….i know iss movie ne 80% of bacche and 50% of unke maa-baap ki psychology kharaab kar de hai…..

I appreciate the efforts of the people who bring such issues and show their agony to the masses but then being normal is also not any crime ..(certainly not as the law stands at present)
Its stupid at the part of the film maker to project that these 10-6 job holders are the frustrated lots… indulged in the rat race….and just trying hard to survive….and that these formal shirts wearer don’t know anything about the latest in’s and out’s of the market… don’t know how to have a good time or how to party hard…nd Don’t even have zest for living ……
I know many people who are not very good at ART …infact they are pretty bad…(including ME )….but then they have their own hobbies which they thoroughly enjoy…because Enjoying is something very individual affair…I mean there are people who give a lot of attention to their fitness and therefore enjoy their sessions at gym….or some like reading books…some like gossiping...and some are introverts and therefore prefer to enjoy just with their very close one’s….so ultimately what is important is having a good time… which ….for god sake…. one can have without chasing too much of arts….

And I believe that its great that your job is giving you time to pursue your hobby…which a 10-6 job surly gives you….and if that is not enough…then you have your weekends too…

So my humble request to the respected film makers ….don’t try to show that one has to be dyslexic… autistic…HIV positive or a complete brat to enjoy life…

Because one can have a good time in the break at the nearest momos point too…

THE ART OF PARENTING

I was just thinking…(well these days I do that a lot…especially when I am stuck with geometry…actually at that time all I can do is THINKING only…)…so I was thinking about The art of parenting...(now don’t ask me the connection b/w geometry and parents…or may be I can answer …both can give you pretty tough time if they want to…) ...Surly the most important factor in determining the individuals personality is definitely their parent…(I suppose you all will agree to me with out any contradictions…)…and I firmly believe that we are more (not less ) like our parents only…because we spend maximum time with them…and so unknowingly we inculcate a lot of things from them…that’s why even after generation the basic values of the family remains so intact …(of course the inflow of new ideas and values with every new generation is inevitable…)

Guys now-a-days with both mom-dad working , they have little time for their kids…but here I am not talking about how much time should one devote to their kids…because I believe that its not the quantity but the quality of time that matters…my issue is how we should treat our child…I mean how strict (or lenient for that matter )should one be with their child…now don’t under-estimate this question….because it is very important…

No matter how good you are at your work…or how efficiently you plan your funds/capital…its of no use if you don’t plan how to raise your kids (that’s your most important investment…)but the irony is that More than 90% of the people just don’t bother to give even the second thought to this subject…they never plan their behavior with their child…and just behave instinctively which suits them…(rather what should be good for their kids)…and that’s the reason the morality is sliding the southern side …(how do you feel when you read the tag line – MY DAD IS MY ATM…don’t ask me.. )

If you ask me I had a really strict childhood…I was under the guardianship (read it strict vigilance) of my uncle…I mean he is really a tough guy…(and I mean it)….i had my share of punishments which were pretty bad…

But surely we were the most well-mannered and disciplined kids (read it exemplary)…we use to be appreciated from everyone …but then I genuinely feel that we were just the perfect kids (doing all the things which was just proper…instead of doing what we actually wanted to..)...because we were actually scared of him… and I think that this particular episode of over strictness (which was definitely not required )….made us… yes.. a little under confident…


Well that’s the reason even today I am not very open to my uncle…(with him around I am always quiet and reserved....)…

Once we reached our teenage the anchor was handed over to my dad (not that I call myself a ship)

My dad is coolest…like we discuss our ward robe, movies, politics and almost everything…(and he will surly get annoyed if I put a face pack on my face without offering him first)….so he is a daddy cool…and it wont be wrong if I call him my real buddy…his aim was always to make us self reliant and he has done very genuine and visible efforts for that….we knew all about the bank, insurance and property transaction in our teenage only…because we were supposed to handle that…for him…and he makes us involve in everything happening in the house ..be it the property matters.…or about any important family decision…but then he has his 5 golden rules which we are expected to follow…(read it must follow…)... (1) you should be home by seven (not even five passed seven), (2)must not hang-around after classes with friends…(3) No school/college trips or fests.. no cinema hall (with friends) ,(4) Can’t visit friend’s home until there is no choice…and the most important (5) “MUST MARRY A MAILTHIL BOY” …well believe me these are a little difficult to follow (read it impossible)…

But then he has been extremely vocal, open about every thing…and the best thing is you can question him and he wont get offended (well that depends)…

Now you guys tell me what you have thought…how should one be with their kids…well if you have not thought about it…it is really bad….give it a good thought and tell me…

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

First of all thnxs for ur over whelming response for my last post…thanks a lot for taking it in such a good spirit…thnxs peetu…nd ritzii….you guys are commendable….nd pragya de u r mind blowing…a special jadu ki jhappi for u…u guys are such a sport…Sandeep jee thnxs for ur feedback too…(by the way I m still curious ki aapki mujhse kya dushmani thi...)…So before starting this blog ….mein aap sabhi ko pranam karti hoon…thik ussi tarah jaise Ram Carit Manas ko shuru karne ke pehle Shree Tulsi Das jee ne duston ko (demons) pranaam kia tha…aur uske baad mein ‘bade dil ki Malika’ Laxmi Prabha Singh ka ashirwaad leti hoon....aur iss blog ke madhyam se mein nitish kumar varshney jee ko mubarakwaad dena chahti hoon…chappad faad ke aa rhe Placement ke offers ke liye … aur unhe shubkamnayen dena chahti hoon unke ujjwal bhavishya ke liye

“ …IN SHORT FROM MY SIDE YOU GUYS GO TO HELL….”…coz that’s the plce for you all

Ohk…so guys you know what a brat I am…I am the most insensitive ,inconsiderate, insensible and callous…ohk moron also….so you guys happy now…feeling better…I am self obsessed rotton girl with a big big mouth…hope now you are in better health….

So so so…yes I am all that and little more…fine a lot more …

But one question…why I am such a bad person…believe me because you people have given me the right to be like that…because I am your friend… so bear me with this too..

Friends... well the most beautiful word in this world…a pillar of strength…a shoulder to cry , a rainbow …clouds , birds , tyres , bhalle papdi…momos…engine, , dog- elephant, cat-rat …. ohk enough I know my readers are too intelligent to read such crap….i mean…we all know that those sweet yet stupid lines are for the SMS’s only to fetch mobile companies…millions and trillians…
So here we are talking about friends…in real life

Why we need a friend (I am talking about initial 2-3 months)…..so that we do not look like an idiot in the entire college…all alone…we need a friend to accompany us to water cooler or loo …to provide us notes when we miss the lectures … or agar kissi se lad lia hai to koi to chahiye saath dene wala….

god am I sounding like a super mean and selfish girl….easy guys…nothing like this…


Do a little bit of introspection…common admit it…if you have to think 5 good qualities of your friend…god it’s a tedious job…now just think whats it is about him/her that makes you pissed off….wow….there is a long list….

Maybe today the relationships are based on convenience and you choose friends by analyzing how that person is important to you from the utility point of view…

may be …..??? hmmm…????


Common guys life is not very honky dory…we have to bear people(FRIENDS)…we have to make adjustments…don’t you get pissed off coz he/she is too lazy or clumsy or glutton ...or probably too philosophical….too busy with her BF or too desperate to get one…wants to take more credit for that project in which you also worked equally hard…she is always into self praise...or has very strong opinions about every damm things( especially in your matters)…or ego clashes….everyone of us has a story to tell

Often you hate them…often you curse them…with the choicest of the swears…

Then why do you still stick to them …????

Maybe because you fear what will people talk about you when you split…or may be others are simply impossible to bear…and he/she is little better than the rest…or you think that it is okey to be in the bad company rather to be alone…


or may be…. just maybe you love them with all their imperfections…

P.S – it is a zone to face the truth and accept it….still I am open to contradictions…. if you don’t agree with anything general or specific…feel free to speak out your heart

with malice towards one and all....

Narcissism has been attached permanently with my personality ….coz whenever u guys discuss me…this is the word that you never ignore…
What is this word Narcissism and what is its origin ??? According to Greek Mythology Narcissus was a handsome Greek youth who fall in love with his own reflection in a pool of water and Unable to consummate his self- love, Narcissus pined away and changed into a flower that bears his name, the narcissus ….
Now I think what you say about me is a bit exaggeration…I mean I know I love my self and can go a bit far in self-praise…but then….okey I accept all the charges against me..
After all in your own words You all say that you bear me…with my ridiculous …rather obnoxious one-liners which I use too often….. “ with that look I have got license to kill”….or … “If being sexy is a crime then arrest me….” but then am I the only culprit here…plz…being narcissist does not only count the obsession about one’s look but also include couple of other things…which I would like to point out with suitable examples…so here it goes…

Priyamvada Khatri whose favorite dialogue is “Mein to great hoon…” which she speaks with such a conviction that you are left with little choice but to agree….Ritzi….what do u think you are doing...when u go gaga about Vishal… non-stop....he is a boy full of virtues and angelic qualities…Easy Babe….i know he is a nice guy....but your description at times forces me to think… is he a regular guy with bones and muscles or an ET (Extra terrestrial) ..???? …nidhi thinks that she is the only girl who is considerate about her parents and deserves the best daughter award…..isn’t that qualifies to come under narcissist catogery…???.BUT my favorite is Pragya Gupta…Sorry Pragya de but you are one of those self obsessed maniacs……who just love herself and just cant help it..i mean I just could not help laughing seeing that tile painting you gifted to Preity… it was beautiful ofcourse …but then you forgot to mention her name over it or maybe there was not enough space left….with more than half of the area occupied by your own name…PRAGYA GUPTA in bold letters…

I would not like to mention anything about my own sister Preity Mishra (actually Preeti Mishra till class 11th…and then I don’t know what happened all of a sudden…maybe the Zinta Factor…but as per my knowledge she thinks that she resembles Shweta Tiwari..Rekha and Tabbu…a little bit of Tanushree Dutta and…isn’t it Aishwarya Rai too…but ofcourse I don’t blame her for it…)…after all she is the most intelligent, cool headed,logical,rational,sanjeev kapoor and mother merry types girl around…Nitish Varshney the guy with coolest attitude and amazing sense of humour…(most probably will get the placement in the 2nd year only… in the biggest MNC or will you prefer an Indian company Bro. ????…)

But in this “KAL YUG” aka 21st century..it is reassuring that there lives a pious and gentle soul Lakshmi Prabha Singh…who is the most beautiful , hot, sexy …Infact “EK BADE DIL KI MALLIKA” types gal who has been very considerate throughout ,generously leaving comments in my blog…I wonder if she even know the meaning of that profane word …“Self-obsession”…

P.S - This blog has been written under that severe attacks of INSANITY….means NO OFFENSE...Love you all…forever… (akshay kumar in kambhakht ishq)

is it really that complex ???

I have spend (ohk wasted ) my countless hours on orkut , facebook (ya I have my a/c on both the sites)…chatting ,poking, uploading pics and videos , updating the profile every now and then…. taking silly quizzes and doing a lot of other silly things…U know what I mean….of course u do….. Every time I log off…there is a guilt …god I shouldn’t have wasted my time doing this and I decide not to log-in till tomorrow…(or maybe till evening…ohk…not till this afternoon...).. I wouldn’t say I am addicted to this “social networking sites”… but then you guys are smart enough to understand…. Cum’on I am not doing anything out of the box….you all do it…bt I am admitting it.. not that Star Plus is going to pay me for this….but who knows Rajeev khandwaal may call me one day… on his show “Sach ka Samna”…hehe….ohk…enough now

Yes it is true that spending countless hours in front of net has become the part of our lifestyle … and we guys have ready-made-excuses for that...in certain ways they are justifiable also…Com’on if you are telling me we can visit malls (coz u cant suggest Humayun Tomb in this scorching heat….) …then I am not interested in visiting the identical twin or triplet malls for just window shopping…so we always try to justify ourself with the fact that we are left with no options ….but the reality is we …here in metros ....like to live a life of anonymity…because we are scared of showing our real self to everyone....not that we have criminal records…but then we don’t want others to know that WE ARE NO SPECIAL…
No matter what ever we say about our graveyard shifts but this automatic century has left us with a lot of time to be own our own…and what we all do at that time…sitting in fron of PC and talking to any Tom-dick-Harry from neitherland…or whatsoever Land…but irony is at the same time we avoid eye contacts with our immediate neighbors just to skip a formal greeting…and while using the elevator we all look blankly at the closed doors like an idiot ….as if a friendly greeting with a stranger is a crime in Delhi…( not as the law stands at present..)…the reason behind this is that 21st century has made all of us (or may be we pretend )a lot private person…

You can listen in every heated conversation …either its with parents, siblings, frnds or spouse….that “YOU HAVE TO RESPECT MY PRIVECY” ….or “I NEED MY SPACE”…(well at that time they are surely not talking about any flat in Greater Noida or Dwarka)….
And then we write articles about the complexities of city life…Admit it…its not the city which is complex….it is we, who is complex…and to make the things a little sorted we don’t need to do something big but just simple things …..so next time when you cross the aunt living next door…do wave her ‘Hello’…she will appreciate it….

"Ye hai Youngistan meri jaan"

I love u all(conditions applied – only those who read my blogs and leave a comment dere…)))…sorry for being too late …bt I had nothing to say that’s why I dint write anything….and finally I m writing …but strangely I don’t have anything to share even today…anyways just a little information (nothing like breaking news ) I had gone my home town after almost three years …for 10 days…and no I am in no mood to say dat I was overwhelmed there…or had a great time …coz I dint had…blame it to the temperature (not the Sean Paul)…ooops…bad joke…

Over there I had nothing actually to do….(well I m not to be blamed for that.. everybody was treating me like a guest so I became one)…but yes I enjoyed their hospitality…Therefore I was left with a lot of time to be own my own..(with Preity being busy cooking some dangerous items..(crispy chilly potatoes with Honey…doesn’t it sound like some horror or probably an action movie...??...) …well it is another topic worth getting a space in my blog…. not today…but I promise that I will tell you about Miss Preity Sanjeev Kapoor Mishra’s spicy adventures…since I had nothing better to do so I was just noticing people around ….especially people my age …but I am not very happy with what I noticed….of course they have been brought up in a conservative environment and therefore are not as frank as their counterparts in Metros…but what is saddening is that instead of being brought up in a joint family set up they are not having affection for their cousins and extended family ….and relationships have now become more like shackles than a bond which they are desperate to break…and want to go and breath in almost an illusionary world of pseudo freedom and false westernization…. …Our generation is the one who has witnessed the transaction of mass media along with the interesting journey of TV from the Dordarshan to the satellite era…we watched mogli and sindbaad as toddlers and yes we are having our share of Roadies , splits villa & kick-ass morning in our adolescence ….Luckily Ramayana and Mahabharta was the part of our childhood because we have grown listening to the larger than life still fascinating stories of Ram and Krishna from our grand mom’s and were not exposed to silly cartoon network and violent video games…(not for initial 5-6 years at least…)…and that’s why we value relationship...and grand parents are not just any silly chaps for us….and I think that it is the soul of Indian society but slowly and slowly this soul has lost its way in the this maddening crowd…no I am not against westernization…and I think that we cant afford to be indifferent to it…but we should not over do it…losing our own identity …
I think that Todays youth… take pride in doing something different ...no matter how disgusted or outrageous that may be…I remember a guy in my college attending classes in his trunks…he may be thinking that he was being cool…but for me he was just a lunatic lacking basic dressing senses which is taught in Primary School…

We all loved Rang De Basanti...but I feel that still the movie couldnt serve its purpose as youth imitated the COOL DJ of pre-interval …the DJ da Promise and DJ’s gang…but what about its true message ..DJ AFTER THE INTERVAL…..THE TRUE INDIAN..why none of us get inspired by that????...

It makes me feel ridiculous that today the criteria of being cool and modern is discussing openly about Homosexuality or pornography….again ..i am not discouraging these discussions….but then is it the only criteria ????...
It is a matter of great concern that today’s youth is trying to do away with their responsibilities….with the stupid slogals of “ye hai Youngistan meri jaan “… we have to realize that just by sounding cool…and acting all fool… will not serve the purpose…

Meow Anil…

Well I really don’t know why I joined this journalism business…(its ohk…if you think what a silly girl she is…..coz I already know that…)... I did it because I had to do something….or at least assure friends and family that I am not a high school drop-out…(it was their worst fear ..)…Well… I had a pretty good time at my college….i made great friends….and even have a job in this recession period…(It is ohk that my boss is really a snob)…but ya these three years have been really a great learning experience for me…Today I feel I am a lot more balanced and mature…( Man…I maintain a blog now…hehe)….

And for that I would like to thank one person specifically ... Anil Srivatsa…..(god I really love this guy…)not coz he has really husky voice…( but…. yes he really has husky voice…Ohk I don’t want to elaborate on this fact that I am his great fan and that I have read all his interviews and all his blogs and I know every single thing about him which is in print or online…and my heart skip a beat every time he says “No. is 43581048….) ….and also how handsome he is ….and his one liners become the philosophy of my life…(ohk…that was a bit exaggeration….) anyways I love him….

This guy actually makes a lot of sense to me….i like his philosophies and his no non-sense attitude …I really appreciate how he perceive the things…and his advices are practical (most of the times)...and he doesn’t give any preaching or never tries to be sweet with the callers…infact at times he is rude….
I learnt from him….that life is as complex as we perceive it…mean it is us who make it difficult and ..keep lamenting….but we can make things more sorted by seeing the wood for the tree….i guess I am not making much sense but if you really want to know what I mean then tune in meow b\w the sheets….every Wednesday and thrusday night 10-1 am….(no…Anil is not paying me anything for this….)

I really appreciate him a lot….and this blog is a gesture of gratitude from my side for a person I truly adore….

may be its time to wake up !!!

First of all sorry for being so late …..i know u guys must be desperately waiting for my new post..(okey….if u were not waiting……fine…..so what…. atleast you guys can be a little tactful with words…)

Guys through this blog I just wanted to share my little experience with all of you…

I have joined a news channel for training ….so I do NOIDA thing daily…up and down….it is exhausting ….and but the worst part is…that it gets really late while returning…around 9:30-10 of night…

So what happened 4-5 days ago….is I was in Metro …and 4-5 boys boarded it at Rajiv Chalk…sat on the floor( just opposite to where I was sitting…)…Just by a single glance I got the impression about their backgroung…and standard..(common…its not that difficult…we all know)…they were cheap boys…with no decency…..and manners…or atleast their behavior reflected that….they did this Eve Teasing thing… disturbed me through their gestures…and I ignored it (like a so called intelligent girl)…..

The ignoring thing(from my side) continued for next 6-7 stations….and may be this gave the guy some encouragement….one of the them stood and sat neat to me …in that process…...touched me DELIBERATLY .

He caught me on wrong side.... I thrashed that guy right..left and centre…then and there…he apologized…his friend tried to act smart…I taught him a lesson too…if they would not have apologized … I woud not have let the metro run..(all I had to do is stand in between the doors….Big Deal…..) …

Well does that sound so easy…..believe me it was anything but EASY….it was not the first time that anything like this had happened..(oh aren’t we taught.. “INTELLIGENT girls don’t invite unnecessary troubles”….)So we start this ignoring thing ….(it makes me feel like a looser…)… I was alone.. .i was scared…but I had made-up my mind…and I did it….after the whole scene I realized I was Shaking….well both with rage (and….i have to accept….FEAR)

In this whole process two things really surprised me….which now makes me feel really ridiculous is..

1. Those boys, who made passes on me…and disturbed me for quiet some time…but the moment I reacted ….Unki Hawa nikal gaye….what a LOOSER they were….but then what we expect from those Son of B****..(sorry for the language…but don’t have better words for them)
2. And all the Co passengers were just the mute spectators ….no body said a word…(both the Thumbs Down for Delhi…)…but then this again teaches us that we have to fight our battle own our own…without any bodies help….

Ofcourse I have not mentioned this at home….for the obvious reasons ( the parents thing)…

But friends just a little message…Stop being INTELLIGENT…..act INTELLIGENTLY….