THE ART OF PARENTING

I was just thinking…(well these days I do that a lot…especially when I am stuck with geometry…actually at that time all I can do is THINKING only…)…so I was thinking about The art of parenting...(now don’t ask me the connection b/w geometry and parents…or may be I can answer …both can give you pretty tough time if they want to…) ...Surly the most important factor in determining the individuals personality is definitely their parent…(I suppose you all will agree to me with out any contradictions…)…and I firmly believe that we are more (not less ) like our parents only…because we spend maximum time with them…and so unknowingly we inculcate a lot of things from them…that’s why even after generation the basic values of the family remains so intact …(of course the inflow of new ideas and values with every new generation is inevitable…)

Guys now-a-days with both mom-dad working , they have little time for their kids…but here I am not talking about how much time should one devote to their kids…because I believe that its not the quantity but the quality of time that matters…my issue is how we should treat our child…I mean how strict (or lenient for that matter )should one be with their child…now don’t under-estimate this question….because it is very important…

No matter how good you are at your work…or how efficiently you plan your funds/capital…its of no use if you don’t plan how to raise your kids (that’s your most important investment…)but the irony is that More than 90% of the people just don’t bother to give even the second thought to this subject…they never plan their behavior with their child…and just behave instinctively which suits them…(rather what should be good for their kids)…and that’s the reason the morality is sliding the southern side …(how do you feel when you read the tag line – MY DAD IS MY ATM…don’t ask me.. )

If you ask me I had a really strict childhood…I was under the guardianship (read it strict vigilance) of my uncle…I mean he is really a tough guy…(and I mean it)….i had my share of punishments which were pretty bad…

But surely we were the most well-mannered and disciplined kids (read it exemplary)…we use to be appreciated from everyone …but then I genuinely feel that we were just the perfect kids (doing all the things which was just proper…instead of doing what we actually wanted to..)...because we were actually scared of him… and I think that this particular episode of over strictness (which was definitely not required )….made us… yes.. a little under confident…


Well that’s the reason even today I am not very open to my uncle…(with him around I am always quiet and reserved....)…

Once we reached our teenage the anchor was handed over to my dad (not that I call myself a ship)

My dad is coolest…like we discuss our ward robe, movies, politics and almost everything…(and he will surly get annoyed if I put a face pack on my face without offering him first)….so he is a daddy cool…and it wont be wrong if I call him my real buddy…his aim was always to make us self reliant and he has done very genuine and visible efforts for that….we knew all about the bank, insurance and property transaction in our teenage only…because we were supposed to handle that…for him…and he makes us involve in everything happening in the house ..be it the property matters.…or about any important family decision…but then he has his 5 golden rules which we are expected to follow…(read it must follow…)... (1) you should be home by seven (not even five passed seven), (2)must not hang-around after classes with friends…(3) No school/college trips or fests.. no cinema hall (with friends) ,(4) Can’t visit friend’s home until there is no choice…and the most important (5) “MUST MARRY A MAILTHIL BOY” …well believe me these are a little difficult to follow (read it impossible)…

But then he has been extremely vocal, open about every thing…and the best thing is you can question him and he wont get offended (well that depends)…

Now you guys tell me what you have thought…how should one be with their kids…well if you have not thought about it…it is really bad….give it a good thought and tell me…

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

First of all thnxs for ur over whelming response for my last post…thanks a lot for taking it in such a good spirit…thnxs peetu…nd ritzii….you guys are commendable….nd pragya de u r mind blowing…a special jadu ki jhappi for u…u guys are such a sport…Sandeep jee thnxs for ur feedback too…(by the way I m still curious ki aapki mujhse kya dushmani thi...)…So before starting this blog ….mein aap sabhi ko pranam karti hoon…thik ussi tarah jaise Ram Carit Manas ko shuru karne ke pehle Shree Tulsi Das jee ne duston ko (demons) pranaam kia tha…aur uske baad mein ‘bade dil ki Malika’ Laxmi Prabha Singh ka ashirwaad leti hoon....aur iss blog ke madhyam se mein nitish kumar varshney jee ko mubarakwaad dena chahti hoon…chappad faad ke aa rhe Placement ke offers ke liye … aur unhe shubkamnayen dena chahti hoon unke ujjwal bhavishya ke liye

“ …IN SHORT FROM MY SIDE YOU GUYS GO TO HELL….”…coz that’s the plce for you all

Ohk…so guys you know what a brat I am…I am the most insensitive ,inconsiderate, insensible and callous…ohk moron also….so you guys happy now…feeling better…I am self obsessed rotton girl with a big big mouth…hope now you are in better health….

So so so…yes I am all that and little more…fine a lot more …

But one question…why I am such a bad person…believe me because you people have given me the right to be like that…because I am your friend… so bear me with this too..

Friends... well the most beautiful word in this world…a pillar of strength…a shoulder to cry , a rainbow …clouds , birds , tyres , bhalle papdi…momos…engine, , dog- elephant, cat-rat …. ohk enough I know my readers are too intelligent to read such crap….i mean…we all know that those sweet yet stupid lines are for the SMS’s only to fetch mobile companies…millions and trillians…
So here we are talking about friends…in real life

Why we need a friend (I am talking about initial 2-3 months)…..so that we do not look like an idiot in the entire college…all alone…we need a friend to accompany us to water cooler or loo …to provide us notes when we miss the lectures … or agar kissi se lad lia hai to koi to chahiye saath dene wala….

god am I sounding like a super mean and selfish girl….easy guys…nothing like this…


Do a little bit of introspection…common admit it…if you have to think 5 good qualities of your friend…god it’s a tedious job…now just think whats it is about him/her that makes you pissed off….wow….there is a long list….

Maybe today the relationships are based on convenience and you choose friends by analyzing how that person is important to you from the utility point of view…

may be …..??? hmmm…????


Common guys life is not very honky dory…we have to bear people(FRIENDS)…we have to make adjustments…don’t you get pissed off coz he/she is too lazy or clumsy or glutton ...or probably too philosophical….too busy with her BF or too desperate to get one…wants to take more credit for that project in which you also worked equally hard…she is always into self praise...or has very strong opinions about every damm things( especially in your matters)…or ego clashes….everyone of us has a story to tell

Often you hate them…often you curse them…with the choicest of the swears…

Then why do you still stick to them …????

Maybe because you fear what will people talk about you when you split…or may be others are simply impossible to bear…and he/she is little better than the rest…or you think that it is okey to be in the bad company rather to be alone…


or may be…. just maybe you love them with all their imperfections…

P.S – it is a zone to face the truth and accept it….still I am open to contradictions…. if you don’t agree with anything general or specific…feel free to speak out your heart