I was just thinking…(well these days I do that a lot…especially when I am stuck with geometry…actually at that time all I can do is THINKING only…)…so I was thinking about The art of parenting...(now don’t ask me the connection b/w geometry and parents…or may be I can answer …both can give you pretty tough time if they want to…) ...Surly the most important factor in determining the individuals personality is definitely their parent…(I suppose you all will agree to me with out any contradictions…)…and I firmly believe that we are more (not less ) like our parents only…because we spend maximum time with them…and so unknowingly we inculcate a lot of things from them…that’s why even after generation the basic values of the family remains so intact …(of course the inflow of new ideas and values with every new generation is inevitable…)
Guys now-a-days with both mom-dad working , they have little time for their kids…but here I am not talking about how much time should one devote to their kids…because I believe that its not the quantity but the quality of time that matters…my issue is how we should treat our child…I mean how strict (or lenient for that matter )should one be with their child…now don’t under-estimate this question….because it is very important…
No matter how good you are at your work…or how efficiently you plan your funds/capital…its of no use if you don’t plan how to raise your kids (that’s your most important investment…)but the irony is that More than 90% of the people just don’t bother to give even the second thought to this subject…they never plan their behavior with their child…and just behave instinctively which suits them…(rather what should be good for their kids)…and that’s the reason the morality is sliding the southern side …(how do you feel when you read the tag line – MY DAD IS MY ATM…don’t ask me.. )
If you ask me I had a really strict childhood…I was under the guardianship (read it strict vigilance) of my uncle…I mean he is really a tough guy…(and I mean it)….i had my share of punishments which were pretty bad…
But surely we were the most well-mannered and disciplined kids (read it exemplary)…we use to be appreciated from everyone …but then I genuinely feel that we were just the perfect kids (doing all the things which was just proper…instead of doing what we actually wanted to..)...because we were actually scared of him… and I think that this particular episode of over strictness (which was definitely not required )….made us… yes.. a little under confident…
Well that’s the reason even today I am not very open to my uncle…(with him around I am always quiet and reserved....)…
Once we reached our teenage the anchor was handed over to my dad (not that I call myself a ship)
My dad is coolest…like we discuss our ward robe, movies, politics and almost everything…(and he will surly get annoyed if I put a face pack on my face without offering him first)….so he is a daddy cool…and it wont be wrong if I call him my real buddy…his aim was always to make us self reliant and he has done very genuine and visible efforts for that….we knew all about the bank, insurance and property transaction in our teenage only…because we were supposed to handle that…for him…and he makes us involve in everything happening in the house ..be it the property matters.…or about any important family decision…but then he has his 5 golden rules which we are expected to follow…(read it must follow…)... (1) you should be home by seven (not even five passed seven), (2)must not hang-around after classes with friends…(3) No school/college trips or fests.. no cinema hall (with friends) ,(4) Can’t visit friend’s home until there is no choice…and the most important (5) “MUST MARRY A MAILTHIL BOY” …well believe me these are a little difficult to follow (read it impossible)…
But then he has been extremely vocal, open about every thing…and the best thing is you can question him and he wont get offended (well that depends)…
Now you guys tell me what you have thought…how should one be with their kids…well if you have not thought about it…it is really bad….give it a good thought and tell me…
9 comments:
hey hey hey...........
we have latsa issues abhi...
thinkn abt kids is not on my priority list
actually d main factor z missin...
so havnt thot much abt it
bt yes, I know d importance of good & positive parentin
& dats y appreciate ur effort for givin a good space to this issue in ur blog.
waitin to see other responses...
esp preity's
she z a mother 4m her childhood.....(dont take me in literal sense)
nice work sweety.
grt goin
alleluia.....
since i hv also been under a vry scrict guardianship in my childhood...so i understand the importance of the topic in question. being at the receiving end..i realised what "not to do" as a parent as i experienced wat a child feels when treated in a particular way.
the immence love dat i got frm my grandparents specially during those yrs was enough to make a place in my heart for them which nothing cn change in this world...n no matter wat.. i cn never disrespect or disobey them in my life
so i m totally against the over strictness dat some kids r subjected to...n can never favour that kind of parenting.
so having experienced both kinds of guardianship...i hv enough to say about "the art of parenting",which i think i keep talking about when occasion comes...may b thats the reason prabha calling me" a mother frm my childhood"
lastly, i would appreciate ur effort .grt work.
i think if parents can't be friends with their kids, their act of imposing their thoughts on the kids needs to be changed....parents need to be flexible with what their children think......that would be called "the art of parenting"......
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Babes u hav really picked up a serious n what shud i say.......a little controversial topic!!!!!!
But a really nice one to discuss...and i liked wht u wrote.
somewhere i m in acceptance to ur thoughts.....i mean i agree to it!!!
Nw a days life has become so hectic, tough n competitive dats just becoj every one wants to b ahead of other.....no matter what n forgetting about dere families....love...and the list can go on..........n i dnt wanna sound like a typical dadi!!!
to very frank What i cud understand till date is...dat parentin.....is really one of the most tough n responsible task god has made for the parents.....n dats y its a very sensitive issue!!!!!!
Since i hav just lived with my parents for 18 years.....(dis thought makes me emotional) i knw the true value of them.....becoj dere are times wen i really need dem n dey r nt dere vth me!!!! they r a miss call away........like u :-)
But i really want to thank god to gv me d best parents on dis earth!!!!!! I really luv dem a lot.........n dey love me more than how much i luv them!!!! dey hav gvn me to the best they cud haave......(may b dis is what parents are......they r next to god .......... i mean they r god to us)!!!!!
but yes there r few things.....dat they r nt opn to.......i wud nt blame them for it.......
N dis gives me an idea.......or lesson dat i need to keep in mind....wen i vl have my kids!!!
I wud like to b a frnd to them ......so dat they can share ny damm thing with me as their parent!!!!!!!
n ab bus bahot kahe diya......Right nw i m very young to think about parenting my kids........ becoj i feel i m a kid myself n need to learn a lot as a kid!!!!!
hhmm...."sweta misra"...
my contribution(in making ur blog famous)...here it goes..
parenting is not only inculcating values in ur kidz literally..but through ample of indirect ways in which kidz develop their attitude and personality...
i think parents should keep a good check on the environment tht they are giving to their kids...
vese .. my parents are extra lenient(sometimes).....and extra strict (most of the times)
n unlike u babes....i hardly discuss my wardrobe wid ma dad...coz agar aisa hota to tu shayad mujhe hamesha suits main hi dekhti...but its me whoz ladaku n apni marziyaan manwa leti hu..
but my mom is xtra sensitive when it came to guide her children(esp me)..nd i dont like it most of the times..bcoz she tries to impose thingz on me..n when i work half heartdely thn she warns me vid the thingz tht i might have to endure in my 5 year down the line future..
whta i think z.. tht upto certain age parents should make their children learn evry damn thing and after certain age be ready to accept thingz from them AS WELL
thtz it....
(chal ab bata kab college jana hai..jaldi)
u have written a nice blog about the art of parenting.i
appreciate your effort .......its nice that u r giving ur thought on this topic from now only....i think u will b a good parent..... all the best....
jitna bada blog utne bade comments...
congrats aap yahi to chahti thi....
mission accomplished......
now u r famous enjoy......
happy diwali....
wel wat i think is dt every child is nt d same so shudnt b d way dey r treated.n dere is a famous saying also laat ke bhoot baat se nhi maante.
in sme cases n in present time in most of d cases strictnes is required.
dere shudnt b a set pattern to traet a child i.e. we hv to b good to him/her always.first try to b as good as u cn b to ur child.if he/she responds wel to it dn nt a prblm.
bt wt i hv seen mostly is dt d more u r good to ur child the more spoiled he gets.so strictness is definitely required.
ek baar bacha ziddi ban gaya to zindagi bhar ziddi rahega.n after dt it wd b very difficult to control dt child.
bt i wud like to say one thing d topics u choose r nt only interesting bt at d same time very substantial also.dts d best thing about ur blogss.
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